I recently found myself thinking about trying for a second little bean. When is the right time? How do know if you are emotionally/physically/mentally/financially ready to start all over again?
A simple answer has occurred to me…you don’t know. There is no right or wrong time that can be used as a guideline for the gazillions of parents out there thinking about having their 2nd or 3rd or 4th or…no more! Please! That is just too many mini-me minions!
I don’t think – no matter how ‘easy’ it was the first time around – that you are ever really ready to do it all again. The constant cycle of feed, burp, sleep, cry, change, rinse, repeat..pretty much every 2 hours! I mean really, that is ridiculous!
We are all a bunch of nutters actually. We just get past the 2-hourly feeds and the colic and sleepless nights, and the completely useless stages of a baby, then our baby becomes a toddler, and starts walking and babbling and becomes fun. And then what do we do? We say to ourselves, “Hey, life is just starting to get a little normality back again so I have a great idea – let’s have another baby and start all over again”.
Why do we feel the need to punish ourselves? I’ll tell you why. Because through all of the zombie days without makeup and bad ponytail hair, we learn about a love that cannot compare to any other feeling that exists in, or beyond our world.
Our daughter Paige is 17 months and 1 week – so in simple speak, she is almost 1.5 years young. My husband and I have been talking about maybe trying for round 2 towards the end of this year. Things don’t always work according to plan though. Stuff happens in life, and one night you find yourself sitting in bed, with time ticking away to midnight, and your eyes are puffy from crying about crappy news regarding the health of a sibling, and your uncle is in hospital fighting for his life, and you look at each other and think the exact same thing, as if your thoughts were from one mind…
“What are we waiting for?”
We want our parents to dote over their grandkids, and our grandparents to at least cuddle their great-grandkids, our siblings need to know their niece/nephew, and our extended family must meet the next generation of our bloodline. We are family people and it is important to us.
So, here we are, 5-6 weeks later, with the recent fantastic news that I am about 4-5 weeks pregnant. We couldn’t be happier about anything else right now and at the same time we are petrified.
One was hard enough to look after. How the blooming heck are we going to care for two little terrors?!?
Answer: We just will. Because you find an inner strength that you never knew you had and the mommy/daddy gene just kicks in and somehow, through all the crying and pooping and spitting up (the baby, not us – okay so maybe we will cry a little), you know what to do. And it will all be okay.
It is still early days and baby no.2 will only be due around April 2015, but I thought this would be a great opportunity for me to share my personal pregnancy experience. I’m going to blog about the good, the bad and the downright uncomfortable, so if you want the truth, without the frills and white lies, then stay tuned.
Don’t get me wrong, being pregnant is a pretty amazing experience, and the end result is obviously worth it, but wow there are some awkward and occasionally embarrassing moments. (Sometimes it helps to share and laugh about it together)
I look forward to sharing this journey with you.